Concierge coaching is ideal for those individuals who cannot commit to regular standing appointments due to demanding and unpredictable schedules, but who would benefit from having regular, immediate access to a coach/advisor. Shifting your perspective and understanding your own process is impossible without someone to see it, hear it and reflect it back.
What is Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder?
With OCD, people have obsessive thoughts and perform compulsive behaviors because they think the behaviors will prevent bad things from happening or will make them feel better. However, the behavior is not typically connected to actual danger of something bad happening, or the behavior is extreme, such as locking doors multiple times per hour.
What Are Phobias?
Phobias are extreme fears, often of irrational people, events, or objects. Common phobias include the fear of bugs, travel, foods, or nearly anything else. These phobias may lead to serious disruptions in a person's life, serious enough to cause major obstacles to functioning well.
What is Social Anxiety Disorder?
With social anxiety disorder (SAD), a person often has thoughts and feelings of something being wrong or "off" when around others, but they don't necessarily associate that with an anxiety disorder. People with social anxiety disorder often display very anxious behavior in social settings, tending to keep to themselves. They may have physiological symptoms of their anxiety such as a racing heart, cold sweats, shaking or trembling, flushing, and stomach upset.
What is Panic Disorder?
In panic disorder (PD), a person will feel a sudden and overwhelming sense of panic. Those with panic disorder often cannot predict when their panic attacks will occur. Panic attacks may even occur at night, waking a person out of a deep sleep.
What is Generalized Anxiety Disorder?
Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) is observed by a person's unusually high levels of anxiety pertaining to everyday things. This may include extreme stress regarding their job, family, social life, and finances that they cannot alleviate.
What is Body Dysmorphic Disorder?
People who show signs of body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) are obsessed with appearance flaws that only they can see. They may feel so ashamed of these perceived flaws that they feel uncomfortable being around others.
The basic principle of exposure therapy is that one will become less fearful of a person, object or event if they are exposed to it frequently and regularly. Essentially, the goal of this intervention is to desensitize the person to the feared stimulus by habituating to it through repeated exposure. For example, if a man has a phobia of rats, the exposure would be to purposely and repeatedly spend time with rats until the man's fear is eliminated or reduced to a manageable level.
Simply put, exposure therapy helps to reduce anxiety. How does it work?
First, the client discovers that, by doing exposures, the feared person, object or event almost never causes harm. The person who touches light switches without washing afterward discovers over time that they don’t get sick and die. Those with Social Anxiety learn that people at the grocery store don’t actually respond as if he or she is stupid or ugly. The woman with BDD discovers that people are not pointing at her in disgust. And the man who has fear of rats learns that he doesn’t get bitten.
The second benefit of exposure interventions is that the individual learns that, if they don’t do their usual compulsive or avoidant behavior, the anxiety almost always decreases all by itself. If the individual who is afraid of germs touches light switches without then washing their hands, they will at first experience some anxiety. But that anxiety eventually goes away – and almost always for a longer period of time than if they had washed their hands. They also discover that the behavior offers only short-term relief. Similarly, if a person with BDD goes out without their usual camouflage of wearing all black, their initial anxiety will decrease over time – again, often for longer than if they had worn all black.
The third benefit of exposure interventions is by dispelling the notion that even if a feared object or event actually does come in contact with them, it is not necessarily catastrophic. Everyone gets sick sometimes, and everyone is negatively evaluated at some time or another. At the same time, some people do actually experience panic attacks, and rats do occasionally bite. But if these events do occur or contact is made with these objects, they have an opportunity to learn that it isn’t as bad as they thought.
The fourth, and perhaps most beneficial reason for using exposures, is that the individual learns that they are capable of tolerating the anxiety that they have avoided for so long. Those suffering with anxiety often spend years with negative feelings and avoidant behaviors in an effort to avoid the aversive effects of anxiety. In truth, the fear of anxiety is the cornerstone of all anxiety-based conditions. When a person does repeated exposures, without responding to the accompanying anxiety with avoidant behaviors, they learn that they are far more able to tolerate this stimuli than they realized. What they thought would be intolerable ended up being much more tolerable after all. Not that ideal an outcome of course, but hardly intolerable.
People who don’t have high levels of anxiety may have a hard time understanding just how horrifying the idea of exposures can be to an individual who has spent years avoiding the very thing the therapist is asking them to face. But to those with anxiety, this fear can control them and considerably decrease their quality of life. In facing fears head on, clients will learn these four valuable benefits to help change their life from that of anxiety, avoidance, and dread, to one that they can choose to live on their own terms.
Frustrations or feelings of being misunderstood or unappreciated are identified and addressed early in a relationship, and a couple can spare themselves from years of conflict and feelings of disconnection by seeking help when needed. I often work with couples newly in a relationship, as well as long-standing partnerships, helping to build and grow a sustainable relationship and support them in developing positive and connected ways of being.
Some of the benefits of couples working with Dr. Bey include:
Advanced appreciation and understanding of each other's love languages
Better understanding of each other’s attachment/relationship styles
Learning to be vulnerable with each other
Develop a deeper, more intimate relationship
Develop effective strategies and problem-solving skills with arguments
Improved communication skills and learning communication styles
Develop effective co-parenting skills
Building a meaningful, connected and healthy attachment with one’s partner takes time and effort. Through couples therapy, you and your partner can establish renewed trust, a deeper connection/bond, a healthy level of interdependence and respect for one another’s needs.
Dr. Bey works well with all identities and abilities that encompass you. I offer a safe, supportive way to address your whole self in a culturally responsive, socially acceptable way.
The needs of Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (BIPOC) and the 2SLGBTQIA+ community are some of the groups I work with. I also help Poly-racial and Disabled communities find their voices.